Meeting “Igby”: Xavi’s Birth Story

“…I was at 9.5 cm, and then she asks me if I wanted epidural, I said yes but I knew that was a trick question.”

Igby is the bump name/ fetus name (or whatever you call it) Marco gave our little boy. I don’t know why but he likes giving them weird, unconventional, unattractive names (Cassie’s was Spriki short for Sprikitik), I love him so I just roll with it and besides it’s only temporary until the baby comes out.

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Proud daddy Marco

With the successive change in our lives, I wasn’t surprised how different the two pregnancies were. This time around I found myself in Muncie, Indiana, blessed to have insurance coverage through Marco’s work (although we still have the deductible and of course eventually our share to pay) so at least we didn’t have to worry about that, an OBGYN referred by Marco’s physician uncle and a hospital close to home a.k.a Marco’s workplace. Another thing that I had to deal with was not having my family around, it’s a good thing my sister Pauline from Houston stayed after the holidays to help me during the last stage of my pregnancy.

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Cassie reading to her baby brother.

I had my last doctor’s appointment a week prior to giving birth and from the looks of it we could all tell that the baby dropped already but I was only 1.5 cm dilated and it stayed like that for a few more days. Fast forward to the day of the pregnancy, I was already feeling some pain in the morning but I still equated it to Braxton Hicks so I went along my merry way doing the usual cleaning the house. Yes, at this point I was still bending down and climbing on chairs (don’t worry they weren’t really high) even though my doctor and Marco already told me off. Pauline offered to help me out, she always does but I like being on the go, so I still bathed Cassie, cleaned her room, fixed our bed and even vacuumed the house. I was feeling pain all throughout the day but nothing I couldn’t handle, I was still convinced it was Braxton Hicks. Marco came home from work around 5pm, I already texted him earlier that I was feeling some pain but they weren’t consistent yet, he was pretty sure I wasn’t in labor yet so as soon as he got home, he changed and headed out to dinner. He was scheduled to take out the residency program applicants for a pre-interview dinner and it just so happened that his cousin was one of those applicants so I told him to go.

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Always the first one to change the baby’s diaper.

He left at 6pm and around 7pm I felt the contractions more consistent this time so I started timing it. They were still approximately every 7-8 minutes and they lasted for 25-30 seconds so I was thinking maybe I’ll end up giving birth early tomorrow. Nope. The contractions got stronger and so my sister texted Marco about it, he got home around 8pm and timed the contractions himself, they were every 4 minutes and they lasted for 40 seconds, I was in labor and we needed to head to the hospital ASAP. Every STOP sign was a pain in the a**, I literally asked him if he could break the law and not stop just coz it hurt every time he would. We got to the hospital around 8:30pm, Pauline dropped me, Marco and Cassie at the entrance as she parked the car and he wheeled me into the Labor and Delivery section. I was in pain alright, I’d make a face every time the contraction came but still managed to take an IG video/ snap while heading there.

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Cassie touching her brother’s head for the first time.

I walked in and they asked me the standard questions,I even managed to reach for my wallet and handed my insurance card (only to find out that I handed my car insurance card, hahaha). Name, Doctor, how far along, due date…I verbally answered them in between contractions while Marco filled up the remaining forms to fill. Finally, they had a nurse check to see how dilated my cervix was—I was at 9.5 cm, and then she asks me if I wanted epidural, I said yes but I knew that was a trick question.

They wheeled me into a room and had a LOT of nurses and that’s when I realized, “oh crap, the baby is probably going to come out any minute coz they’re all scurrying around like its an emergency”. My doctor walked in and she explained to me that it will take time for epidural to kick in and the baby will come out before it does so here we go— ALL NATURAL NO EPIDURAL BIRTH and I wasn’t ready. Oh well, C’est La Vie. They broke my water (which probably was the only thing that was stopping the baby from coming out) She told me to let her know when I start to feel the urge to push and I’m telling you in between the contractions you suddenly get that urge to let the baby out. My husband who was holding my hand had to ask me to let go mid-way coz I was crushing it, I guess you don’t really know your own strength until you push a baby out.

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I don’t know how I did it but I focused on my doctor’s voice and importantly followed her directions, when she tells you to push, no matter how  tired you are you give it your all and you PUSH. They were giving me updates like, “his head is coming out”, “oh, he has a lot of hair”, “you’re almost there”, you listen to those words and let it motivate you. Just when I thought I couldn’t push anymore coz I really felt exhausted, I gave it one LAST.LONG.PUSH to the point where I couldn’t breathe and then I heard it—I heard my baby’s cries, I finally get to hold my little Xavi They cleaned me up as they were cleaning him up, I felt them taking out something that felt like a big blob and then they stitched me down there. I think what I hated the most was when they pushed my tummy to check if blood was still coming out from wherever its supposed to come out (I’m pretty sure theres a medical term for that) but if you ask me what the whole process felt like, it felt like I released one BIG, GINORMOUS poop after a month of being constipated (sorry for being grossly graphic).

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At 10:03 pm, I gave birth to Jose Inigo Xavier. He weighed 7 lbs 13 oz and was 21 inches long. Thank you Lord for keeping me and Xavi safe.

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Our first family photo
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Taking him home for the first time. It was one cold night

 

~Rhea (now officially a mom of 2)

DIY Peanut Butter FUN-whiches

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Recently, Marco and I have discovered the magic of Fresh Thyme‘s freshly ground almond, cashew and honey ground peanut butter (our personal favorite). They literally have the actual machines that convert your peanuts into butter right in front of your very eyes and the best part is you get to do it and you get to sample it as well, I don’t think it gets FRESH-er than that. If you don’t think that’s cool,well you can always grab an already packaged one.

Anyway, I wish I could say the same for my 2.5-yr old, Cassie. To those who follow me on IG, I know I’ve expressed how picky my child can be and unfortunately she has decided that she doesn’t like peanut butter without even trying. So, in efforts to change her mind I’ve created some “FUN-whiches”  with the help of some of her favorite fruits, hopefully she will want to try out one of these.

WHAT YOU’LL NEED:

bread, peanut butter, bananas, grapes, strawberries, apples (honestly you can pretty much improvise)

BEAR

(bread, peanut butter, bananas, grapes)

CAT

( bread, peanut butter, grapes, strawberries, apples)

OWL

(bread, peanut butter, bananas, strawberries, grapes)

MONKEY

(bread, peanut butter, bananas, grapes)

CHICKEN

(bread, peanut butter, bananas, grapes, strawberries)

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RANDOM SILLY FACE

( bread, peanut butter, grapes, strawberries, apples)

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…And here’s the fun-which preparation after-math, I had to get some peanut butter for myself too. And just in case you’re thinking it.. NO, I didn’t double dip. haha.

~Rhea

INFLUENSTER: Lancôme Hydrazen Voxbox

 

A few weeks ago, the perfect summer care package came in the mail from Lancôme c/o Influenster, inside it were 3 items— the Lancôme Tonique Confort, the Lancôme Hydrazen Moisturizer and lastly L’absolu Lacquer in the shade of BE UNIQUE. Although I received the package from Influenster in exchange for my honest reviews, I figured I might as well write those reviews here on the blog so I could keep track of the products that I enjoy the best.

With beauty products, you can try them on, wait a few hours or a day to decide if you like them or not but for skin care products, I think you should give them at least a week to see if they work well for you or your skin.I have combination skin but lately thanks to the summer heat my skin has been dry, It also doesn’t help that I’m inconsistent with my skin care and I haven’t been getting enough sleep.

Lancôme Tonique Confort (6.7 oz/200 ml) – $26

Lancôme came up with the perfect formula when they created this product, upon application it’ll feel cold against your skin and it’s a bit thick (comparable to goo but in a good way) compared to the other toners in the market. It’s refreshing on the skin and it doesn’t have that harsh alcohol-like smell other toners have, in fact it smells really good, it has a very light floral scent to it. It’s perfect for moisturizing sensitive skin like mine. I use this product twice a day (once in the morning after I take a bath and once at night after I rinse and wash my face) and it leaves my skin hydrated the entire day.

Lancôme Hydrazen Moisturizer- (1.7 oz/ 50ml) $48

 I apply this moisturizing cream gel in the morning after applying my toner, it is pleasantly light on the skin, its cool and calming and has a rose scent that isn’t over powering but if you dislike anything that smells like roses then this might be a problem for you. My skin looks rested and noticeably hydrated after a few minutes of application, it doesn’t leave my skin greasy although it looks like that upon application but the moisturizer is actually easily absorbed.

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My skin with no makeup and no filter after I applied the Lancôme Tonique Confort followed by theLancôme Hydrazen Moisturizer. Please excuse the eye bags.

Lancôme L’absolu Lacquer- 378 Be Unique – fuchsia (0.27 oz/8ml) $26

Dry lips are my norm and I usually dont bother with lipsticks just coz most of the time they dry out as the day goes by leaving me with more chapped lips. Before applying any kind of lippie, I always have to go through the tedious process of moisturizing it so the lipstick goes on smoothly. I applied this product directly on my lips and it instantly took out the dryness, it saved me the step of moisturizing and it lasted almost the entire day. After a meal, even if the gloss wasn’t there anymore my lips still stayed brightly colored like it would if a lip stain was applied on it and really only one coat of this lip lacquer did that. I’d imagine two coats would be perfect for a day out and three for a night out. In the photo above, I just quickly applied one coat before heading out.

 

There you have it, as a Stay-at-home mom of two I’d have to say getting this voxbox from Influenster was a treat indeed. Sometimes when you’re trying to do a million and one things all at the same time you forget about self care and I somewhat got reminded that I should pamper myself once in awhile even if it just means taking a few minutes out of my busy schedule to moisturize my skin.

How about you, what’s your morning summer skincare routine?

~Rhea

INFLUENSTER: Milk Makeup’s Kush Mascara

MILK makeup’s Kush Mascara has been out for a while now and it’s been making waves in the makeup industry not only because of the product marketed as vegan but primarily because of its CBD oil component—-yes you said it, Marijuana. But before some of you come up with any speculations of the product “making you high”, sorry to burst your bubble but from what I’ve read the CBD oil is not the psychoactive part in Marijuana therefore no ones getting “high” by applying these on. I’d have to admit though I’m impressed with how MILK makeup campaigned for Kush with the tag line “One HIT for high volume” <cue in a Bob Marley song 😉 > , after all it is the first mascara product out there that has incorporated cannabis oil into their product from what I know.

As I’m not a big fan of mascaras just coz I feel like it’s an extra step for me in my daily makeup routine and because they normally don’t do anything drastic to my eyes ( I have overly short lashes) I’ve tried Kush in over more than one occasion and I had to rethink my last statement.

Every product has their claims and I would have to agree in these aspects based on my experience with Kush:

✔️HIGHER VOLUME

✔️LONGER LASHES

✔️THICKER LASHES

To start with, my lashes are almost non-existent, you can barely see them unless you stare closely but with just a few strokes from this beauty you can somewhat see my lashes now. It’s made my lashes visible and fuller but as for its claims of lifting my lashes up and it being clump Free, I’ve had inconsistent outcomes on that aspect probably because I still have to master the skill of applying mascara on.

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Lastly, let me mention that the packaging of this product is on point, from the triangular shaped box to its cold aluminum body. I would have to admit it is a bit taxing to be ‘lugging’ it around since it’s heavy and doesn’t feel like something you can just throw in your purse for a night out or a quick luncheon with friends but it was created that way to protect the product from accidental drops or falls, also its good to note that the body was created from recycled aluminum. So yay MILK Makeup’s Kush Mascara for thinking green and being vegan.

This product was sent out by Influenster in exchange for an honest review and can be purchased at Sephora or Milk makeup online for $24.

#KushMascara #Influenster #sponsored #contest #MilkMakeup

~Rhea

Xavi’s Baptism

Unlike Cassie’s baptism, Xavi’s was a little bit more unprepared….okay, a WHOLE lot unprepared. Marco and I figured that due to our move to Muncie, it would be hard for people to come especially since we opted to have it during Memorial Weekend, flights were going to be expensive and the roads would be busier than usual so I decided that we would play it by ear. Even then Marco and I discussed who to get as Xavi’s godparents because I wanted to make sure that we could ask them before the baptism (even if they couldn’t come). I know here in the US they emphasize the concept of godparents as one male and one female since they will be acting as your child’s second parents but in the Philippines it is normal to get more than just a pair so its safe to he has a bunch of godparents who will be guiding him as he grows up.

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We didn’t have an invite for the baptism since we were doing it during the 11am mass at St. Mary’s but I made a similar invite like Cassie’s for the godparents. We were so blessed to have Estelle as the godmother and Aj as the godfather to make it to his actual baptism.

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The baptismal gown that was passed from generation to generation in Marco’s side. The same gown that Cassie wore and Marco wore when they were both baptized.

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Father Dudzinski carrying Xavi the entire time during the homily

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The sacrament of baptism

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With mom, representing my side of the family

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With Nacho, representing Marco’s side of the family and the ever supportive Rousseaus

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With the San Juans who drove all the way from West Virginia

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The Godparents that made it— Ninang Estelle and Ninong Aj

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And here’s a photo of my little family with Cassie trying her best to fight her sleepiness and Xavi getting very sleepy, haha.

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After mass, we were planning to have lunch at Thai Smile since we’ve been craving for Thai food and Thai tea but they were close for Memorial Weekend so we ended up having Italian food at Johnny Carino’s.

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Didn’t need to go all out on the dessert table since we only had a few guests so I kept it simple. Thanks tita Ditas for the baptismal decorations, I wouldn’t have bothered making one if it weren’t for you.

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Ordered them last minute but Maggie from Simply Patisserie still followed through with the cake, the cupcakes and the sugar cookes.

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I’ve gone to her since we moved here to Muncie for Cassie’s Taco Twosday cake and pastries, if you’re in the local Muncie area you definitely should check her out, click on her shop name above for the link to her FB page.

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These were used during Xavi’s baptism and the blanket was a present from the ministry at St. Mary’s.

So there it is, a short recap of Xavi’s baptism. Welcome to the Christian world our little Xavi!

~Mommy Rhea